Don’t use your worries as an excuse to be too hard on yourself. Don’t worry too much, don’t push yourself too much, try but don’t forget to rest.
From the quote above I realized that, working hard is important to achieve the goals we seek.
However, there are times when we don’t realize that we are too hard on ourselves.
We force ourselves to carry out daily activities without taking time to rest. What do you do if there is poison in you?
You will definitely delete it, but it’s not as easy as pressing the delete button and letting it out, especially if the poison is disguised as a bad habit or unhealthy self-perception.
Our thoughts are so easily ignored and thrown away. But with enough practice, our bad feelings can be questioned and managed well whenever we’re not being very kind to ourselves.
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Here are 6 signs that you may be too hard on yourself.
1. Blaming Yourself for Things Out of Your Control
It’s a good thing to take responsibility for the mistakes you make because that’s how you get better.
But if you’re too hard on yourself, it’s easy to forget that you’re human too. When things don’t go according to plan or expectations, you start to blame yourself, even though you have tried your best.
Sometimes waiting out the storm is the only option we have. Instead of beating yourself up, accept what you can’t change and focus on what you can do to improve the situation.
Remember that in life, there are things that are beyond our control.
If something goes wrong because the mistake occurred outside of our control, then don’t be provoked by prolonged feelings of guilt because what can we do, it’s not your fault.
2. You focus too much on things you haven’t achieved yet
It’s great to be ambitious and work actively to achieve your goals. But if you start comparing yourself to other people’s successes, then you may start to forget the progress you have made.
You focus so much on other people’s achievements that you forget that you have come this far.
We cannot equate everyone’s achievements because we do not start from the same point.
There are people who start from established family conditions from birth, and there are also those who start from mediocre family conditions.
All flowers on earth do not bloom at the same time. Instead of feeling inadequate, learn to appreciate your own journey.
Everyone grows at a different pace and just because you’re where you don’t want to be, doesn’t mean you’ll never get to where you want to be.
In the end you will keep going, do your best and try slowly to climb the mountain you climb.
Remember that there is no overnight success and having ambition in life is important, but to move further forward, you have to enjoy it and be more grateful.
It’s okay to be challenged, but don’t be intimidated by other people’s achievements and stop being jealous of other people’s success.
Let’s be happy when we see people achieve what you haven’t achieved, after that work with gratitude and continue your struggle so you can be like them.
3. It’s Very Difficult For You To Accept Other People’s Compliments
If you are too hard on yourself, you will fall into a cycle of negative self-talk. As a result, when someone gives you a sincere compliment to yourself, you see that it was just lies and drama.
Not because they don’t mean it but because you criticize yourself too much. You feel like you haven’t reached the stage you want and maybe you’re still very far away.
So when you receive other people’s praise, you feel like they only want to praise you or look for face. Even though maybe it is a sincere compliment for what you have done
Increase your self-esteem by surrounding yourself with loved ones who always see the best version of you.
When you spend time with people who constantly remind you to work on your self-image, you will learn how to become a more accepting person about your circumstances and flaws.
4. Signs you’re too hard on yourself: Reject your own ideas
We may not all be great scientists or talented artists, but we are all capable of being creative.
However, if you bury your own ideas too quickly before sharing them with others, you may be too hard on yourself.
Rather than immediately judging an idea, let it develop into action before you let it go because you’ll never know until you try it first.
Realize that you yourself have the potential to do anything if you decide to do it. Often we are afraid to implement ideas because we are afraid of failure.
However, it is a stepping stone to great achievements, therefore, don’t feel that your idea is something embarrassing because if you feel like that, maybe you are too hard on yourself so you feel that the idea is not good enough to convey.
5. You Think Too Much About Mistakes You Make
When we focus too much on the mistakes we made, we will get stuck in the past and that will prevent us from moving forward.
Instead of blaming ourselves for the mistakes we make, reflect on these mistakes so that we can use them as moments to learn from them.
It is impossible to live life without experiencing failure, making mistakes, getting hurt and hurting other people, even if it is intentional.
It’s one thing to pay attention to how your actions affect other people, but it’s another thing if you let your guilt get the best of you.
6. Signs you’re too hard on yourself: Rarely Gives Time To Rest
Too much pressure on yourself will make you unproductive, and can even make things worse.
When you feel like you have become bad, then you will do something bad too.
Sometimes it’s good not to take a step just yet so we can focus on the big picture and remember to have fun every once in a while.
If you only live your life chasing your dreams, you will miss spending time with loved ones and making memories that you will look back on when you grow up.
Don’t be too hard on yourself. You shouldn’t treat yourself like that, loving yourself and always respecting the struggle, needs to be done. Don’t compare yourself with others.
As explained above, each person’s success has their own speed. So enjoy the journey and the process.
