Smart people don’t say these 10 words because smart people know that language is important.

There was even a saying that words hurt more than swords, and that was true.

Smart people always think first before speaking, not talk first then think because words are born from thoughts and thoughts ultimately give birth to words.

Words give birth to actions, actions give birth to habits, habits give birth to character and character will determine our fate.

Well, this language can determine our perspective in thinking and sometimes we are able to control our words at the right time.

When I wrote this material, I thought I was not a smart person either, but it turns out there are several words that I often say to other people.

So, through this motivational writing, I want to learn a lot about how to be a leader, how to be smart, and how people like and admire without fear!

Here are 10 words smart people don’t say

So this material is not only for you, but this material is also for me so we can learn together!

1. “It’s not my fault”

So, when we have a problem, especially in a group or team, blaming other people is the easiest thing.

But an intelligent person never uses those words, because he knows what the consequences will be!

If the decision has been implemented, it is the responsibility of all parties, so he is very reluctant to blame other people.

These intelligent people tend to be responsible for what they have done. So if something goes wrong in the group or team, he will never blame others by saying “it’s not my fault”.

If there is a mistake, it means it is a collective mistake, even though at the time of making the decision we already knew something was wrong, but because it has become a joint decision, we must be consistent if it is our collective mistake.

If we tend to blame other people by saying “it’s not my fault”, then someday, if there is another job, that person will avoid working with us.

Or other people, before we blame them, they will blame us first for inappropriate conditions.

If we want to grow in a better direction, we must completely avoid using the words “it’s not my fault”.

2. “This is not good, it should be more perfect”

In a job, especially at the beginning, nothing is perfect, if we are busy looking for perfection then we will not get perfection.

Expecting perfection is the same as preparing yourself to fail, because nothing is perfect.

Smart people tend not to seek perfection, but they will always do their best, when they try again, they learn from failure to be the best like yesterday.

So if you are constantly seeking perfection in your work, be prepared that you will miss out on the best.

3. Smart People Don’t Say: “That’s outside of my job”

Sometimes he gets an assignment from his superior, from his manager, according to the description there is an automatic assessment carried out by our manager, carried out by our boss.

If we only carry out our job description, it means we are working only to get a salary and have a secure position at work.

In general, smart people always discuss things first when they see work that is outside their job description.

Instead, he discussed it with his boss first, until it was his manager, not us, who had to reject it outright.

Who knows, if you do this, maybe your position could rise or you might get plus points from your boss.

I don’t know, by carrying out the discussion above in the end we will get a long-term understanding of why we have to do this.

If we immediately refuse, we don’t know the purpose, so these intelligent people know very well that they will not use the words “this is outside my job description” if it is not appropriate, they can refuse gently rather than refusing directly.

4. Smart People Don’t Say: “It’s not fair”

Smart people really avoid this because if they knew, if they used such “unfair” words.

Because it is the same as childishness, if a small child is treated unfairly then he will immediately rebel and say “This is not fair, this is not fair”.

So if we use those words, we are only being childish so we look immature and naive if we always use those words.

So if you feel the decision is unfair and downright unfair, you can use another word besides “unfair”.

Maybe with words like this, you ask your boss, you say, “Why don’t I understand? What should I do to get that? So I can improve my performance even better, so I can get it.” Yes, smart people use those words all the time.

5. Smart People Don’t Say: “I am smarter than you”

People who use the words “I am smarter than you” actually want to show their arrogance, want to show that other people are beneath them.

If you have a good IQ, if you have a good level of intelligence, even if you are smarter than others, others will admit it. Why ? because you are needed there.

But if what comes out of your words is “I’m smarter than you”, it’s just an arrogant confession and you want to be acknowledged, even though it’s not acknowledged, then stop saying, “I’m smarter than you”.

6. Smart People Don’t Say: “Don’t be offended, OK? Later if, but, blah blah blah”

The first time you say don’t be offended, but in the end you offend other people. Yes, intelligent people would not use these words. Moreover, great leaders really avoid these words

It started like that, in the end before people heard the rest, they were already on the defensive. Why? because it’s bound to be offensive.

Instead of using words like that, it’s a good idea for us to look for words that really don’t offend other people’s feelings, but convey our intentions and goals well and correctly without having to offend other people’s feelings.

7. Smart People Don’t Say: “This is a stupid question, but blah blah”

If someone ever uses these words meaningfully in a forum, the first possibility is that he is not listening to the forum or secondly, he is not confident.

Well, smart or intelligent people tend to avoid using these words because if we use these words, it will seem as if we are not confident and doubtful about our questions.

So the problem is, if we ourselves are not sure about the question, how can we convince other people.

There is no need to use the words “this is probably a stupid question”, there is no need because intelligent people really avoid such questions.

8. Smart People Don’t Say: “I can’t do it”

Maybe you are overwhelmed by the tasks given to you, maybe in your heart you are already saying “Oh, I can’t do this”.

In fact, if you think that you can’t do that, then you will never be able to do that and vice versa, if you think you can, you definitely can!

If you think there will be a way out, there must be a way out, but if your mind is blocked and with the words “I can’t do that” then forever, in any way, you can’t do it.

9. Smart People Don’t Say: “Leave it to me, it only takes a minute, I can do it”

There was an incident where my cell phone was damaged and I took it to a repairman, the repairman said “this is an easy problem, just wait 5 minutes and I can solve it”.

In my heart, I had high hopes for him, “this person is really smart.” However, it turns out it takes hours, even up to 1 day.

What has happened? My expectations immediately dropped, I immediately said “They said it could be finished in a few minutes, but it turned out it took hours.”

Whether we realize it or not, we often give trust to people in these ways, even though intelligent people really avoid words like that.

If he gets a task, he will analyze carefully what to do? So he can determine how many hours he can work on it, how long he can work on it.

Because if we set expectations too high and it turns out those expectations are not in line with what we do.

We will get minus marks in front of other people, so it is very important to avoid the words “this will take 1 minute, leave it to me”.

we avoid those words even though we know we can do 1 minute, but please avoid using those words.

10. Smart People Don’t Say: “I told you so”

There are some people who if something goes wrong, if for example it happens in a group, in the team there will definitely be failure.

To protect himself, he always said, “I told you, it should be this way, it should be that way.”

Actually, where was he when that decision was made? That’s a joint decision, if it’s a joint decision it’s the responsibility of all of us.

If that happens then success is our success together, if there is failure then it is our failure together.

Like I said, blaming other people is easier, because our ego is saved, but what? we will be looked down upon by others and what will end? Later, if you get an assignment, you will never be invited to work together.

Because of what ? Because of your ego and arrogance, people are reluctant to work with you anymore because of the words “I told you so, I told you so”.

I often hear my child talk like that to make a defense. So what does that mean?

If you often use those words, it means you are still immature, haven’t played in a team, haven’t worked with a good team, and maybe you can’t be a good team player.

Because these words sound very arrogant, because they look down on other people.