Be friends. What do we want in the next 5-6 years? This is determined by two things, namely what books we read and who we hang out with!

Currently there are 3 things, what books we read, who we hang out with, and who we follow on social media, because that is what determines who we will be like in the next 6 years.

Motivational speakers often say: Tell me who your circle of friends is and I will be able to predict what you will be like in 6 years by looking at your friends!

If you walk with a perfumer, the perfume smells good, if you walk with a blacksmith, even if you don’t get a spark, you can still smell it.

So if we want to be successful, if we want to be happy, it is important for us to choose and sort out our friends.

Maybe we often hear advice from parents who say: “Never choose friends”, but the context is different, the context is that if you are a rich child, you should not choose friends from any circle.

However, there is something interesting about this friendship, namely that the older we get, the smaller our circle of friends becomes.

This is very natural because the fewer friendships we have, it is a sign that we are becoming more mature.

Why is choosing friends important? Because we have to choose people to get our attention, our loyalty, our dedication, our investment of time, our thoughts and our energy.

If we choose the wrong friends, in the end our time, our energy, our thoughts and all of that will be wasted.

But if we choose the right friendship, then the investment of our time, investment of energy, thoughts and all of that will be rewarded, because we are too.

5 types of people you should avoid making friends with

If you want your future life to be successful, happy in the future, try to avoid or eliminate association with the 5 typical people below:

1. The type of person who likes to complain

Complaining is normal, but liking to complain is not normal, complaining about anything, such as: eating at one place, being told the food is not good, the food is good, being told the place is not good.

The place and food are delicious, he said the waiter was not friendly, the waiter was friendly, the food was delicious, the place was delicious, he said it was too far from that place.

Basically, whatever he complains about, his life is always full of complaints, whatever his complaints are, he always looks for problems in every solution, not looking for a way out of every problem.

You are just an ordinary person, you need friends who can motivate you, listen to you, lift your spirits together.

But if you meet people who like to complain, always complain, while your enthusiasm is also up and down, sometimes up, sometimes down, it will only drain your energy, just a waste of time.

When I met him, everything that was fine was fine, but when I met him, everything was not fine because there were complaints.

Can you imagine meeting people like this? Calling you repeatedly asking for a solution, “So what, my partner is cheating on me, what’s the solution?”

We have given him solutions many times, and all he says is: “I love her so much, how about this?”

Then called again, “What, my partner is cheating on me, what’s the solution if it’s all kinds of things?” We told him that the solution was to “just break up with your partner.”

The problem is, when we gave him a solution like that, suddenly the next day he went back to his partner, finally he said to his partner, “That’s our friend from yesterday, give him the solution if we break up.”

Eventually his partner and you get into a fight. Well, it wouldn’t be fun if it was like that.

So, so that it doesn’t drain your energy, get rid of friends who like to complain, not making them friends doesn’t mean we hate them.

We just need to keep ourselves enthusiastic, stay enthusiastic, because life out there requires extraordinary positive energy.

Because if your circle has negative energy for a long period of time, you will view the world negatively.

So it’s a shame, it’s a waste of time to spend time with people who complain.

2. Smart people will not associate with people who like to control

These people feel they are the most right, so they feel everything in their environment is the most perfect.

They control left and right, where they want to watch, what they want to watch, they arrange it according to their wishes. , basically according to their wishes.

He decides where he wants to eat, basically without other people’s approval, the important thing is that he likes it, basically he has to eat there, and other people have no right to say anything, basically he is the one who decides.

We wear clothes a little wrong, we are criticized, basically we are bossy, we are critics, everything we do is wrong, basically he is the one who is right.

We promised to watch but he decided what movie he wanted to watch, in the end we watched a movie he liked. Two hours of our time, it doesn’t seem fun to watch a film we don’t like.

It’s a waste of energy with people like this. We want to be friends doesn’t mean we have to obey those orders.

So without us realizing there are lots of friends like this in our environment, so we have to stay away from them, we have to eliminate them as our friends, why? Because it’s just a waste of our time doing something he likes that we don’t like.

In fact, friendship is where we both do what we like, so if you want your life to be calm, happy, not grumbling in your heart, not grumpy in your heart, then you have to get rid of those people who like to control, boss. and criticize.

3. Smart people will avoid hanging out with friends who don’t know them

Those who don’t know what they are like? Borrow money, forget, do group work, end up doing something else, or borrow goods, jackets, clothes, shoes, become property.

Basically, when you meet him, something upsets you because he doesn’t know himself, and if you tell him, he will pretend to have forgotten his memory. So you have to eliminate friends who don’t know themselves.

4. It’s best to avoid making friends with people who are not punctual

People who value time value at least three things: First, they value the time given by the universe. Second, he respects other people’s time. Third, he respects himself.

So, if someone is not punctual, it means they don’t respect these 3 things. There are several possibilities for people not being on time, but the biggest possibility is that your appointment is not a priority.

So you have to eliminate from your circle of friends those people who are not punctual, can’t even make an appointment, how can you do bigger things.

People who value time are characteristics of people who can be trusted to carry out their trust.

Therefore, making friends with people who are not punctual and do not keep promises will only drain our energy, drain our strength and drain our happiness.

5. You should avoid making friends with people who like to gossip and have a lot of drama

If you are friends with people who gossip a lot and like drama, it is the same as degrading your thinking brain.

Meeting people like this, all we do is gossip, criticize and tell other people, they already like to gossip, there’s a lot of drama, what they show on social media doesn’t match real life.

Everything is made into drama, he wants to be the center of attention so that he is always noticed and noticed.

We also need attention, we are friends, we give and receive from each other, if we only always listen to other people without being heard, it will be tired and a waste of energy.

So if you have friends who like to gossip and have a lot of drama, it’s best if you want your life to be good, your life to be successful, remove yourself from being friends with people like this.

A good friend is a friend who when we tell him the most embarrassing thing in our life, he listens to us and smiles.

A good friend is that when we tell him why we feel insecure, he always listens to us and says be patient.

A good friend is that when we tell our personal and professional stories, he is always there beside us.

If you want your life to be happy in the future, if you want to be successful in the future, if you want your life to always be strong, then from now on start choosing and sorting out which friends to make.