All things about loneliness. Everyone feels lonely when we don’t have anyone to sit next to us at lunch or when we’ve just moved to a new city, or when no one has time for us on the weekends.

Loneliness and solitude are two different things, you can be filled with joy at being alone and hate every second of being surrounded by your friends.

You choose to be alone and you are happy with that solitude, in fact solitude can increase concentration, focus and other positive things, if you feel lonely then you are lonely.

Loneliness can reduce your productivity, money, power, social skills, and can also prevent you from having a good personality.

However, nothing can protect us from loneliness, because loneliness is a part of life.

Loneliness is the same as hunger, when hunger makes us look for food, because if we don’t eat we will eventually die.

Just like loneliness, loneliness is a problem of social needs, if these social needs are not met, loneliness can kill you over time.

How can loneliness destroy us?

A study shows that stress stems from chronic loneliness and if we have experienced it then this is the most unhealthy thing.

This can make us age faster, make cancer more deadly, and weaken our immune system.

Loneliness is twice as deadly as obesity and as deadly as smoking a pack of cigarettes a day.

When loneliness becomes chronic, it stays in our body forever, when loneliness becomes chronic, our brain goes into self-defense mode. The brain will start to see danger and hostility everywhere, but that’s not all

Several studies have found that when you are lonely, you have difficulty trusting other people and feel suspicious all the time and think too much.

Loneliness makes you always think badly about someone’s intentions towards you, you think the world is hostile to you so you are selfish and protect yourself.

You look cooler, less social, and awkward when in fact you are not like that.

What to do ?

If loneliness has become a strong part of your life, the first thing you should do is try to identify the bad cycles that may be keeping you trapped in loneliness.

Usually it’s like this, initially feeling isolated which leads to feelings of tension and sadness that make you focus selectively on negative interactions with other people.

This makes your thoughts about yourself and others negative causing you to change your behavior, you start avoiding social interactions which causes you to isolate yourself.

If left unchecked, this cycle will get worse and be difficult to eliminate.

Loneliness makes you sit far away from other people in class, not answering the phone when friends call.

Or often rejecting friends’ invitations until in the end no one wants to invite you.

But this process can end in depression and mental conditions that hinder the relationship even though you miss him.

The first thing you can do to avoid it is to accept that loneliness is a normal and unquestionable feeling.

Literally everyone has experienced loneliness at some point in their life because this is the human experience in this world in general.

You can’t eliminate or ignore these feelings until they magically disappear, but you can accept them and get rid of the cause.

Try to start exploring what your focus is on

Are your interactions around you negative, neutral, or positive? What is the actual content of your interactions with other people?

Do you want that interaction or do you just want to please others? What are other people saying? Did they say something bad?

Or do you think too much about other people? So what do you think about the world? Do you always think badly about other people?

If so, can you try getting along with other people without negative feelings? Can you assume that they won’t hurt you? Can you risk being more open and insensitive?

And finally about your behavior, do you avoid opportunities to be around other people? Do you often find reasons to reject other people’s invitations?

Or do you ask others to protect yourself first? Do you act as if you are hurt or are you really looking for a new relationship? Or are you satisfied with your current situation?

Of course, everyone has unique and different situations and self-examination alone may not be enough.

If you feel like you can’t resolve the situation on your own, try reaching out and getting help from a professional.

This is not a sign of weakness but of courage, but we must see loneliness as a purely individual problem that can be solved to create more personal happiness.

Humans have built this world in amazing ways, but nothing great in this world can or will replace our basic biological need, namely relationships.

Most animals get what they need from their physical environment, we get what we need from our relationships with other people.

Let’s try to do this

Come on, call someone today, it doesn’t matter if you feel lonely or not, by calling someone today, who knows, you could be the antidote to someone else’s loneliness.

Send messages to friends you haven’t spoken to in a while, call family members who feel excluded.

Invite your coworkers just for coffee, or just go somewhere you’re usually afraid or lazy to go, like a family event or going to a sports club.

Everyone is different, you’ll never know what’s right for you if you don’t want to socialize, it might not work out, but that’s okay, don’t expect anything.

Your goal in doing this is just to open yourself up a little in training our connecting muscles.

So that these muscles can grow stronger over time, until finally loneliness becomes a normal thing in your life and you can overcome it.